Reparenting Myself

Throughout my years of doing inner healing, I discovered a process that I now call reparenting.  In the early years of my inner work, I used it a lot.  I now find myself using it with my clients. Yet I forgot that I had it as a tool for myself.

A couple of mornings ago I was having some strange dreams. I keep a dream journal and write down my dreams off and on. In spite of the increase in strange dreams as of late, my dream journal has been more off than on.  This particular dream was so disturbing that it had my full attention.

The dream took me back a couple of decades. At the start of the dream, I saw some people who seemed shocked by my presence, and even more shocked to see me turn my back and walk away peacefully. This made complete sense to me because it was a group of people that I am no longer connected to and I needed it energetic clearing around those relationships.  This helped that ending feel complete.

The next part of my dream really threw me off. I was back in my twenties and I was being sexually violated in the dream. I struggled to find my voice and scream.  But eventually I screamed out a profanity and woke up disheveled and tormented. I immediately began to pray and asked Archangel Michael and Mother Mary for help. I felt their presence, yet I didn't feel anything happening. When I asked what they were going to do, they gently redirected me to my own reparenting practice.

I visualized my 23-year-old self, and she was hurt and angry for all of the times she had experienced unsolicited sexual advances, gestures, and disrespectful remarks. She wanted to scream and throw things and I allowed her to tantrum, scream and cry. These were all expressions that at the time I believed were wrong and I didn’t have the courage to speak up for myself. Once the energy moved through her she composed herself and she felt free.

Through reparenting, I gave my younger self permission to release those old emotions that were very valid and needed to move through so that I can move forward today. I also released the belief that I should not speak up for myself, one that I have had to work through many times. When I came back into my current self, I felt a physical shift in my body and I also felt I had power over the dream, as I was no longer fearful. I can't deny that there was a deep healing that took place.

I love the reparenting practice because we all hold some sort of trauma from our younger years. To show up for our younger self as our current self, we can give our inner child the love that it wanted and needed at the time. We can also shift some of the beliefs that no longer serve us. Some might think this is crazy, but the way I see and experience it is that time is not linear, and our inner child is always with us. True healing comes from the courage to go deep with our own emotions and taking our ability to respond (response-ability) to give ourselves the love and space we need to heal so that we show up better for ourselves and the world.

Sometimes help from a coach is useful in learning this process.  A coach can also hold a safe place to do this work.  If you are curious, feel free to schedule a session, so that you too can get free.